Showing posts with label decluttering. Show all posts
Showing posts with label decluttering. Show all posts

Monday, July 6, 2015

No buy July (so far)

Project 333 is off to a good start. I'm also doing an "unshopping challenge" with Yerdle. All this came together with a low bank balance and high student loans.

I gave myself a little leeway because (1) I live in MS and it's HOT. I change clothes when I get home from work. I also play sports so I have extra workout clothes on hand. (2) I'm starting a new job I'm the Fall and don't know what my job "uniform" will be.

Insight: I impulse buy online. It's amazing how often I get on Amazon and want, want, want. Hmm. 

I need to purchase new underwear eventually since some of mine are losing their integrity.

Books & audio books. I have 1 Audible credit/month and Kindle unlimited. I'm working on the books on my shelf. I know some of them.can go but I'm not ready to let them go. Hmmm. (Food for thought).

I like that everything in my closet matches.  I like having less visual clutter in my room.  I love skipping the mall for mindless wandering. 

And finally: gratitutious photo of Duncan

Monday, June 22, 2015

Minimalism Ideal vs. Reality



I’ve been reading about minimalism, capsule wardrobes, and other experiments with the “less is more” philosophy. Like everything else I skip along and learn a lot along the way.  (Directions? Ha!)  


Minimalism ideal


There are some cool minimalist guides that recommend following some stunningly drastic minimalist measures like (1) donate or sell all your stuff, (2) limit your earthly belongs to what will fit in a shoebox, (3) light your house on fire. Even straightforward guides for sensible capsule wardrobes were giving me anxiety. 


I think that extreme minimalism is an ideal and I applaud the families who have achieved that level of freedom from materialism. Y’all are cool. I’m just not there yet. 


My relationship with stuff


I did some soul searching about my relationship with stuff. When I was in college I had boxes in my (then) boyfriend’s garage, some stuff in corners of my parents’ basement, in the trunk of the car, a pile of stuff for vacation and other stuff for my summer camp job. I felt …scattered.  A friend asked me, “What is it about your stuff that you’re so attached to?”  It wasn’t the “stuff” itself – a sewing machine from the 1970s, flannel sheets and a box of office supplies?  


What bothered me at that point, deep down, was the unsettling feeling of being constantly in transition. I felt like I was missing the security of a constant resident. Instead I felt like pieces of me were pushed into corners, left behind, and divided. Realizing that helped me to examine the deeper emotional sea change. 


Home Sweet Home


I’ve lived in my house since 2013. I love having a house because I can put a nail in the wall and be completely responsible for it. Sure there’s the matter of property tax, replacing that pesky roof, and the ugly kitchen fixtures. But I embrace that because I have one address and to me this is home.


Yeah, I have a house full of stuff. Generous friends and family gave me items for my house and I’ve purchased some things. The things in my kitchen came from my Mom. I have family treasures my Dad generously passed on to me. 


The goal I would like to achieve is a home full of things that are beautiful and useful. 

Project 333 prep


I came across the Project 333 and it just made sense. I plan to start the 33 piece wardrobe in July. You choose 33 clothing items and wear them for 3 months in different combinations. I'll discuss that in more detail in another post.

This is my plan for the next few days :


  1. Put a few items of clothing into storage bags or hang them in the guest room closet. Putting 3 blouses in another closet is a lot LESS scary than putting it all in a bag for GoodWill.
  2. Donate or discard clothes that don’t fit or look dumb. My sister is the long-suffering recipient of boxes of flotsam. 
  3. Sort through the piles of stuff I have around the house. Sort them into categories like “office supplies” and “craft stuff.” 
  4. List things I’m not using on Yerdle (If you want to sign-up click here)
  Clearer Thinking



Why am I embracing this chaos in the middle of dissertation writing?  Because having a clearer space around me is actually helping my thinking.  

By removing  extraneous stuff I hope to make my home a peaceful, welcoming place where I can focus on what's important.


Updates to follow! 

Cats are content with a cardboard box.

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Thoughts on Decluttering - my relationship with my stuff

I wrote the following post for Reddit, /r/declutter. You can read it here.

Some changes were made for clarity.

Part One

My resolution this year is to stay on top of the clutter in my house - move things on when I'm done, put things away, and clean up after myself.

My Momma told me this my entire childhood: clean up after yourself. I told my students when I was an elementary teacher to "Clean up your space." It's that simple, right?

I stay by myself with four pets, so my situation may be different than mine. I work full time and I'm working on my PhD.

I look around my house and what do I see? My work space (the dining room table) is piled with papers, books, and office supplies. In the kitchen there are boxes of cereal and coffee on the counter, dishes in the sink, and an empty box of dog treats. In the bathroom there are make-up palettes on the sink and a pile of dirty laundry. In my bedroom there's a laundry basket of clean, unfolded clothing.

The cause of my clutter is my own laziness, distractability, and failure to follow through. My biggest issue in my home, and the rest of my life, is avoidance.

When I come home from school I walk the dogs, cook, have dinner, and read. The last thing I want to do is clean. So I end up with the clutter and mess mentioned above, and it adds up every single day.

So what do I need to do differently? I need to wash my dishes after each meal and put food items away. I need to put my make-up back in the drawer when I'm done. I need to clean the litter boxes. I need to do a little bit each day.

As I've worked on my avoidance issue, I've noticed my home is more a home. I'm returning emails right away, answering text messages, and calling my parents more often. I feel much more calm and in charge when I have a tidy work environment and I am much more focused in my studies.
I hope to keep improving in this as the year goes on!

PartTwo

I've been thinking about the reasons people have for clutter and messiness, and also the reasons people have for strict cleanliness and order. There's some truth in how our surroundings reflect our inner thought lives. Also, the kind of home we grow up in impacts our relationships with out belongings and our surroundings. 
 
I grew up in a busy household. My Dad worked long hours in a medical practice and the hospital. My Mom worked as a nurse and raised 4 children. I shared a room with my sister, who is very tidy, and I had a sense that I didn't have my own "space" and that any "space" that I claimed (even a shelf) would be taken over. One of the reasons I am clutter-y, perhaps, is subconsciously claiming my home as my own space. The consequences of that is described over and over.I can only speak for myself, of course. It's been and it continues to be an interesting journey.

Part 3

I've been reading articles about decluttering and organizing. There are whole magazines devoted to it and stores devote entire sections to organization containers. What strikes me about this is that often the articles fail to address the thinking behind habits, and also how long it takes to change habits.
If you've been tossing your shoes in a pile beside the closet door, a fancy shoe rack isn't going to change your habit right away. (Or will it?)

There are two TV shows about hoarders. One of them requires the hoarder to confront mountains of stuff and have their home cleaned out in a weekend. At some point, the person breaks down. Of course they do! The stuff represents safety or protection.

Have you noticed that those folks usually experienced some trauma or abuse before they began hoarding? A child died, they lost their job, or they were in a major accident. It is a great disservice to these individuals to take away what is essentially their protective shell without giving them an opportunity to work through their trauma.

In some circumstances their home is so bad that it's a health and safety risk. That's a different issue, of course, and I wouldn't wish for anyone to be in a home full of mold or without running water.
The second show I watched allows the people to work through their "stuff" with the help of family, friends, and an organizer. They also have access to counseling. One man took 1 grocery sack of trash out of his home and that was a big step for him. In the follow-up, he communicated that he worked more and more, and saw the progress, which motivated him to do more and more.

These are extreme cases. I think it illustrates how change in the physical environment has to take place in the head and heart.

What do y'all think?

Thursday, January 1, 2015

New Year De-Cluttering







I wanted to share some suggestions for de-cluttering to start 2015 out right. As you  know, de-cluttering is process and the process of moving extra stuff often allows us to clear our minds. 

My Mom recommends getting a laundry basket. Start in one room and collect the items that don’t belong in that room. Go to the next room.  Put away the items that belong there and collect items that don’t belong. Continue around your house until you’ve done all the rooms. 

Things to do:
1.       Update your family medical information
2.       Update your family emergency contact list.
3.       Gathering up documents that you’ll  need to do taxes

Kitchen:
1.       Check the expiration dates on spices and make a list of spices to replace.
2.       Do you have condiments (salad dressing, ketch-up, etc.) lingering in your fridge? Check the expiration dates and discard the ones past their prime. Make a list of condiments to replace.
3.       Look in the freezer. Make a list of food items and plan meals.
4.       Look in the cabinets. Discard food that are expired. Make a list of food items and plan meals.
5.       Replace staples that are running low (flour, sugar, salt, etc.)
6.       Check your cleaning products. Make a list of products to replace. Make sure cleaning products are out of reach of children.
7.       Discard or recycle broken dishes, odd lids and containers

Bedroom
1.       Check the elastic on your sheets. Get elastic clips to keep the corners around the edge of the mattress if you need to.
2.       Wash blankets if you need to.
3.       Do you need to replace your pillows?

Closet & Closet
1.       Ladies – put your old panty hose to use in other ways.
2.       Match as many random socks that you can, put the “orphans” to use for cleaning and dusting.
3.       Toss old undies.  Replace the ones that you need.
4.       Put anything that needs to be mended in a bag.  Sometime this week get out a sewing kit and make repairs and replace lost buttons. If sewing isn’t your thing you can take your items to a tailor.
5.       Go through your closet and pull out clothing items that you haven’t worn in the past few years. Donate or repurpose them. At this point, just get out things that “aren’t you.”
6.       Tidy the items that are on hangers.
7.       Collect scarves, belts, and other accessories in one place.
8.       Collect jewelry items in one place. Make repairs to jewelry if you’re able. Use broken or mismatched jewelry for repurposing or crafts.

Notes – There are different systems for de-cluttering and organizing your closet. Use a system that works for you.

Don’t feel compelled to hold onto the weird jacket your mother-in-law gave you for Christmas. Write a thank-you note and quietly send it on to a new home.

Bathroom
1.       Use up the shampoo and conditioner that’s lingering in bottles. You can use it to fill travel size toiletry containers.
2.       Donate lotions, body washes, and other toiletries that aren’t your scent.
3.       Replace family toothbrushes
4.       Check the medicine cabinet. Gather medications that you don’t need anymore. Many pharmacies will dispose of medications for you.
5.       Restock your family first aid kit with band aids and pain relievers.

Living Room
1.       Return DVDs and CDs to their cases.
2.       Check under the sofa for lost items.
3.       Wash throw blankets

Pets
1.       Wash pet blankets and bedding
2.       Discard toys that are broken

Other
1.       Return items that you borrowed from family members (dishes, clothing, DVDs, books)
2.       Donate or recycle your old cell phone
3.       Discard expired coupons
4.       Send in rebate forms
5.       Collect all your change in one container. Take it to the bank.

The New Year is a great time to get a fresh start! Once you get started cleaning and de-cluttering, you'll feel motivated to continue.